BIG Baby News (like really REALLY big)!

Last April, after learning I was two-years cancer free but unable to carry a child, I posted on this blog to ask if anyone would consider being our surrogate. It was a bold move, and it was hard not to consider that I might be left without a response, and quite embarrassed. Within hours, however, volunteers started responding with heartfelt enthusiasm. Over the next few weeks, more than a dozen of you offered the most unbelievable sacrifice. Still today, we are in awe and overwhelmed with gratitude.

And the surrogate is . . .

twins 1 angela family

Angela and Aaron, with their adorable boys, Austin, Aiden, and Alexander.

Half a lifetime ago, as a high school junior, I won the Idaho State Track Championship. My coaches, Angela and Aaron Stark, were a young, enthusiastic
couple with whom I remained friends well after graduation. They now live in Kentucky, where they are parents to three darling boys; and as luck would have it, both are readers of the blog. When Angela made the decision to help me become a mother, her enthusiasm was irresistible. In true coach fashion, her email subject line read: “Let’s do this!” And so we did!

Angela is Awesome…and fertile 🙂

Miles and I hit the jackpot with Angela: she is pure love. She has made the cross-country trip to LA multiple times, undergone extensive testing, pumped herself with hormones, and was eager to start anew when the first attempt was unsuccessful.

Angela somehow continues to juggle a new job, parenting, running marathons, and chairing fundraisers, while going out of her way to keep me connected with all she is experiencing. We text, we call, we message, we email. Angela and Aaron were even in our kitchen via FaceTime when we learned the news she was pregnant.

Just a few weeks ago, Miles and I were in Kentucky with them for the first ultrasound where we saw . . .drumroll, please . . . THE TWINS!

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twins 3 13 weeks

Every Wednesday, Angela sends us a Baby Bump picture update. Last week, the twins were as big as peaches…

twins 4 14 weeks

…and at 14 weeks, they are now our little Lemons 🙂



It takes a village…

They say it takes a village to raise a child. In our case, it took a village to create one. . . actually, two!

When I was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer in June 2012, news spread rapidly among family and friends. We were incredibly touched by the outpouring of love and support we received. We welcomed meals and doggie care, but felt a fair amount of guilt accepting the checks people were sending.

However, within weeks, the financial impact of a cancer diagnosis became downright scary. We soon learned that care that goes “above and beyond” most often also goes beyond insurance coverage. An initial test for genetic mutations at $7,000 was the eye opener. Clinical trials – often the only place to get access to cutting edge new treatments – seemed likely in my future. Many of these, like immunotherapy, could only be found abroad at that time. Furthermore, Miles and I were determined to preserve our fertility, and were soon embarking on the significant cost of this endeavor.

Today, my medical treatments have exceeded more than $1,000,000. We are fortunate that a vast majority of this has been covered by health insurance, and thanks to your support and donations, Miles and I have been able to fund our fertility treatments.

Thank you from the bottom of our hearts. Your donations allowed us to preserve the 9 embryos that provided me with hope when I needed it most. They gave me the strength to fight through difficult treatments. And today, as two of those embryos are growing, you are giving us the family we have always dreamed of.

Miles and I are overjoyed to share this incredible news with all of you. Thank you for your support, your contributions, and your love. We wouldn’t be here without you. Team EmBen rocks!

Living in the Moment,

Emily & Miles

37 thoughts on “BIG Baby News (like really REALLY big)!

  1. I just recently finished a surrogate pregnancy for much the same reason (my best friend is unable to carry her own babies due to cervical and uterine cancer). I also had twins. A boy and a girl born in October. This is the most rewarding thing you can ever do for someone and at the time feels almost a little selfish as you get so much out of it as a carrier. Congratulations to all! If you’re interested in seeing some of the ups and downs of twin surrogacy we had a Facebook page CotyPeas ClementsPod…..I was sometimes brutally honest.

  2. I was so excited to hear this wonderful news! You will be such wonderful parents and I am so very happy for the FOUR of you!!!! XOXO) Chris

  3. YAY!! What excellent news!! I have a feeling “Let’s do this!” is going to be a recurring theme for you guys 🙂 Love and hugs from Denver!

  4. I’m not sure we’ve ever met, but Danny has always kept us updated on you and we’re so happy for you guys! You deserve only great things and parenthood is surely great. Wishing you and Miles health and happiness.

  5. How wonderful to “officially” hear your amazing news! I look forward to hearing more updates about your little boys/and or girls! Much love, Anne

  6. I love when good things happen to great people! You two are going to be amazing parents. Those are some lucky little babies!!
    Angela- you rock! Such an amazing, selfless, kindhearted act you are doing for them. God bless you!

  7. Twins?!
    Beautiful, wonderful, amazing news. My heart breaks wide open each and every time you two are so blessed. I’m so happy for you.

  8. Very happy for you both!! After a boatload of bad news earlier, another shipload of good news has arrived. Best wishes for Emily, Miles, Angela and the twins! Love, Dino

  9. That’s an awesome story. Coaches really give more than great personal development and memories, don’t they? Congrats!

  10. Congratulations!! I wish you all the best. I went to school with Anglea (Middle and High School) she was kind and giving them. I am happy to see that still hasn’t changed. Being a surrogate is a great, selfless adventure../Can’t wait to follow you all on it!!

  11. If I were there with you, I would be crying. Emily may remember that I am a twin. A twin is the biggest gift my parents ever gave me. Being a twin is almost as wonderful as being a parent. I cannot tell you how happy this makes me.

  12. Could there be any happier news?!! Makes my heart sing and my eyes well up. Three cheers for Angela, EmBen, Miles, and the fruity, cutie babies!

  13. If you look on my FB site Emily on home page we just posted last night Aedan and Athena taking their first steps! My daughter, Kristen Renee’ is trying to go to nursing school and juggle the twins, but she is one happy mom! Davstar–Renee’

  14. Smile. Twins are GREAT; I should know I had boy/girl twins 26 yrs ago and my oldest daughter had Athena Riya and Aedan Bradley 14 moths ago. I LOVE TWINS! Congratulations you deserve this! XO

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